Freedom From Bitterness and Anger

(Freedom from Bitterness)

Thuhmaihruai

Thinnatnak (bitterness) timi cu kan maih hrilmi a si. Buainak kan tong ringring ding asinan cumi buainak kha thinnatnak thawn lehrul kan tum ding maw; duhdawtnak thawn kan letsal ding timi hi kan hril dingmi a si. 

Jesuh Khrih hi mi ih zomtaihnak a rak tuar, a rinsan zetmi pawl ih taansan khal a tong, Rom ralkap pawl khal in an hrem. Asinan, a thih tiang huatnak le thinnatnak hril lo in, duhdawtnak le ngaithiamnak a hril sawn. Curuangah, thinnatnak le thinhennak hi kan hrilmi a si. Hril ding dang kan nei lai timi lo sim ka duh. 

Thinnatnak timi hi khui in a ra?

1.     Midang ih hnonmi sinak (Rejection). Cain, rai a thawimi Pathian a cohlan lo tikah, a thin a na ih a naupa tiang a that. 

2.     Nu le Pa ih thluasuah duhbul neihnak (Favoritism): Jacob le Esau. A u in a nau a hua. Joseph khal a pa in a duhbik tikah a unau dang pawl in an hua. 

3.     Midang ih hremnak (Injustices/abuse): Isarael pawl Egypt ah kum 400 sung an tang. A rah cu Pathian thukammi an zum thei nawn lo ih, Egypt ram ihsin Pathian in a runsuak hnu khal ah, sal taan an duh lai thotho. Lam tluan ah an tlok ciar. Moses ih Pathian khal an  zum thei lo. Pathian ih thukam khal an zum thein awn lo. Canaan khal an thleng thein awn lo. 

4.     Midang ih zomtaihnak (humiliation). E.g. Hannah - 1 Sam 1. 

5.     Fate pawl ruangah (Stupidity of children)

a.     Thufim 17:25 sungah, “Fapa aa in pa ih hnenah thinharnak a thlenter ih, a nu ih hnenah lungretheihnak (bitterness) a thlenter.

Thinnatnak ih a rah

1.         Thlarau Thianghlim kan riah a siat ter (Eph. 4:29-30). Himi thu tlaangpi cu “thinnatnak/thinhennak” a si. 

·      Midang kan rinsan thei nawn lo ih, midang pehtlaih khal kan duh nawn lo. Cutikah, mahte lawng um (isolation) kan si vingvo. 

·      Kan tongkam pawl hi midang riahsiat ternak lawnglawng a suak thlang. 

·      Midang ih thatnak kan hmu thei nawn lo. Midang ih siatnak lawnglawng kan hmu thlang. 

2.     Satan hnen ihsin a rami fimnak thawn kan khat 

·      James 3:14-16: “Nan thinlung sungah iksiiknak (bitter envy) le mi huatnak le mahih zawnruahnak lawng a khat a sile ka fim tiin porh aw rero hlah uh; thutak parah sualnak nan tuah rero sawn a si. 15Cubangtuk fimnak cu vancung ihsin a rami fimnak a si lo; khawvel fimnak a si; thlarau thawn a ral awmi fimnak a si ih khuavang fimnak sawn a si.”

3.     Pathian ih huham kan co thei lo. 

·      Tirhthlah 8 - Mikherthiam/khuasia dawithiam an timi Simon (Sorcerer) a um. 

·      Philip thusimnak in zumtu ah a cang ih ti a hnim ve. 

·      Peter le John in thla an cam tikah Thlarau an ngah ciamco a hmuh tikah, a daw ih paisa a pek ih himi huham I peve uh tiah a dil. 

·      ^“20Sikhalsehla Piter in, “Pathian ih pekmi laksawng hi tangka thawn lei thei dingih na ruah ruangah nangmah cu na tangka thawn va hloral uh! ²¹Pathian mithmuh-ah na thinlung a dik lo ruangah kan hnaṭuanmi sungah na tel lo, covo khal na nei lo. ²²Hi bangtuk thil ṭha lo na ruah sualnak ihsin siir aw awla a lo ngaithiamnak dingah Bawipa ih hnenah thlacam aw. ²³Ziangah tile nahsuahnak in a khatmi le sualnak thawng sungih a tlami na si, tihi ka hmu a si,” tiah a ti.”

Ziangtin Thinnatnak hi ziangtin kan tuah a tha tiah Bible in zirh? 

1.     Taansan aw (Put off anger). 

a.     Kan doctor thabik Bawipa Pathian ih ruahnak in pekmi a si. 

b.     Thinnatnak le thinhennak pawl hi kan nunnak siatsuah theitu an si ruangah, Pathian in taansan thlang uh, hru nawn hlah h tiah in ti.

c.     Himi in na nunnak ih a siatsuahmi a tam tuk ruangah, cuih thinhennak hnipuan cu hruk ding a man lo tuk. 

d.    Colose 3:8

                                               i.     ⁸Sikhalsehla atu-ah cun cubangtuk taksa duhnak cu nan hlonfai ṭheh a ṭul: thinhengnak, aithawhnak le mi mitkemnak pawl cu hnong thlang uh. Mi hmuhsuamnak ṭong siseh, ṭongsia siseh, nan kaa sungin nan suahter lo pei.”

2.     Lehrulnak cu Pathian ih ta timi hi zum aw (Rom 12:19). 

a.     Rom 12:19

b.     ¹⁹Ka duhdawtmi pawl, ziangtik khalah phulak tum hlah uh; Pathian thinhengnak sawn in cumi cu tuahseh. Ziangah tile Ca Thianghlim sungah, “Keimah in phu ka la ding; Keimah in ka leh-rul ding, tiah Bawipa in a ti,” tiah a um. 

c.     Pathian in tuanvo a si. Na tuanvo a si lo. 

d.     Pathian in “Keimah in phu ka la ding” a timi kha na zum maw? 

e.     David, Pathian thinlung bangk tuk a neitu in thinnatnak a neh daan khal “lehrulnak cu Pathian ih ta” timi a zum fek ruangah a si. 1 Sam 26:10-11 sungah, Abishai in Saul a ihthah sungah thah a tum tikah, David in, dai hrimhrim hlah. Pathian ih hriak a thihmi a tuahmawhtu cu hremnak tong lo in a luat lo ding. Pathian in thu a then leh ko ding tiah a ti. 

f.      Pathian in ka lehrul ding a ti timi kha zum awla, na thinnatnak a leem sawn ding. 

3.     Pathian ih sual ngaithiam tulmi ka si timi ah lungawi aw.  

a.     Lei tlun ah a famkim kan um lo. 

b.     Ephe 4:32 “pakhat le pakhat zaangfah thinnemnak nei aw ton uhla, Khrih sungin Pathian in a lo ngaidam bangin pakhat le pakhat ngaidam aw uh.”

c.     Pathian in ka sual I ngaithiam zo timi hi na zum taktak maw? Na zum taktak ahcun, na lung a awi, na thin a nuam zet ding. 

d.     Khrihfa in thuthangtha kan neihmi cu zaangfahnak ruangah sual ngaithiam kan si timi a si. 

e.     Pathian ih sual ngaithiamnak comi na sinak hi na mang a bang maw? Na lungawi thei maw? Na lungawi taktak ahcun, midang huatnak le thinnatnak pawl kha na kai duh ringring lo ding. 

4.     Na thinnatnak kha Pathian in na thatnak hrangah a tuah ding ti zum aw. 

a.     Kha tin I ti nan, Pathian in cumi hmang in himi dinhmun ah I thlen ter tiah lungawi thu sim aw. Thank you ti sawn aw. 

b.     Joseph thuanthu zoh aw. Thinnatnak a nehtheitu pawl cu midang hrangah thluasuah ah an cang sawn. 

c.     Seem 50:20 “Keimah siatsuah dingah khua nan khang nain Pathian in thil ṭha-ah a canter a si. Cucu tuih sunih kan hmuh vekin mi tampi humhimnak dingah a si.”

d.     Ralkhap pawl ih hremnak le kan harsatnak kha Pathian in a hmang ih Laimi tampi ramdang ah kan thleng. 

e.     Pathian in kan harsatnak hi thluasuah peknak ah a hmang theu. Curuangah, harsatnak a lo petu pawl kha, anmah ih khati ih in rak zomtaih ruangah Pathian in thluasuah I pe a si tiah ti in lungawi thu sim sawn aw. 

Thunetnak: 

Thinnatnak in luat na duh ahcun: 

1.     Kan doctor thabik a simi Pathian in in simmi hi zum aw. “Na thinhennak pawl kha hlon  aw.” 

2.     Lehrulnak cu Pathian ta ti zum aw. 

3.     Pathian in a lo ngaithiam timi hi ziangtluk in a thaw timi  kha ruat sal awla, lungawi thu sim aw. 

4.     Na thinnatnak kha hmang in Pathian in na nun thansonak ah a hmang sawn ding. Pathian hnenah le a lo tisiattu parah lungawi thu sim sawn aw. 

How to Overcome Our Disappointment?

People are disappointed when they cannot do what they really want to do. When one is disappointed, one usually hates both him/herself and others. Then, one is usually filled with fear or discouragement to exist for the future. Have you ever had that feeling? If so, I have one remedy. Before you do anything else to settle your disappointment and fears, kneel down and pray to God. Build a proper relationship with Him first. You may need to ask God's forgiveness or you may need to count his blessings in your life. Do whatever it take to build peace with God. Actually, there are not many problems but a problem that is a broken relationship with God. The more you run away from God's direction, the more problems you face as you are traveling without a proper GPS. 

GPS tells us recalculation when we do not obey its command. As soon as we know it is wrong, the wisest thing to do is to turn back right away. If not, GPS will still give us another road but it takes more times and gas. Likewise, the best GPS of our life is the Holy Spirit. She wants to be with us and relates with us all the times but we usually try to ignore her warnings and direction. Consequently, we just move without the right direction of life. A purposeless life and disappointment are the results of ignoring the guidance of the Holy Spirit. 

Then, what should we do when we feel disappointment or dissatisfaction in our life? Kneel down and have fellowship with the Holy Spirit again. Then, she will give you another chance again and again but the more you ignore her warnings, the further you will have to go to reach the goal of your life-journey. 

Dear friends, solve your problems with prayer first and then, God will take care of the rest through you.  


by San No Thuan

Treating people as ends to themselves but not as mere means to an end?

San No Thuan

A sawh duhmi taktak cu, "Midang in kan parah tuah hngai seh ti na duhmi kha, midang parah va tuah ve aw" timi a 

Treating people as means: Na duhmi tuah ngahnak ding hrangah midang hrang ruat lo in tuah hlah tinak a si. 

Treating people as ends: Midang thatnak ding hrangah, nangmah sawn in tuan ding zuam sawn aw tinak a si. 

Caan tampi ah mi thawn kan biak awk tikah, kan thin a tawinaknak bik cu, midang in kan maih duhmi an kim ter thei lo tikah a si bik. Cu tikah, na santlai lo tuk tiah kan ti lohli ih, kan thin a tawi ciamco. Cu tikah, kan theih lo pi in, midang kha kan mai duhmi kim tertu ding pawl an si, kei cu “Boss,” annih cu “Servant” timi lungput tha lo neitu kan rak si sual pang theu.. 

Asinan, Bawi Jesuh in in fialmi cu, midang ih rianhmi si lo in, midang riantu sawn va si aw tihi a si (Mk 10:45).  Midang kha na thil tuah duhmi tuahnak ding men ah hmang hlah. Midang ih duhnak kim ter sawn ding hi a thupi bik ah ruat aw.

Kan maih duhmi tuah sak dingah, midang kha thil kan fial pang tikah, kan thinlung sungah kan ret dingmi cu, "Anih hi ii bawmtu ah Pathian in i pekmi Vancungmi a si tiah ruat aw, tihzah upatnak thawn zaangfah dil aw." Zaangfah tein, ii bawm thei pei maw ... tiah tangdornak thawn dil aw.    

Anger Management

To control your anger:

1. Take a deep breath.
2. Don’t attack the person, but the problem.
3. Remind yourself that getting anger will not solve the problem. Focus on problem solving for the future than the problem in the past.
4. Never use “never” and “always” to negative things.
5. Don’t expect others not to come on your way while your are traveling. Don’t always think that things ought to go your way.
6. Don’t be selfish, but have a consideration for others.
7. Pay good attention to others by closing your mouth first.
8. Talk slow, talk low, but remain short.
9. Remember that the purpose of your life is to reflect Jesus. Will Jesus act like this?
10. If your child’s messy room makes you furious, then, just close that door to make yourself calm.
11. Try to find things that you can agree with more than you cannot.
12. Don’t give command to others but always request them.
13. Don’t think yourself that you know everything. Let other reveal their opinions.
14. Don’t think that all the world is against you. You just arrive at its difficult spot.
15. The underlying message of highly angry people, Dr. Deffenbacher says, is "things oughta go my way!" Angry people tend to feel that they are morally right, that any blocking or changing of their plans is an unbearable indignity and that they should NOT have to suffer this way. Maybe other people do, but not them!
16. Focus not on "who is right?" but on "what is right?" 

Ref: http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx#

http://www.sannothuan.com/2011/04/anger-management.html