Hmailam Kekarnak Hrang Tihphannak Ziangtin Kan Neh Thei Ding?

Text: Mark 4:35-43; Job 1:21

Thuhmaihruai

Lei tlun ah zumtu tampi harsatnak, natnak, le thihnak tiang kan tuar ve. Hivek lai caan ah hmailam ah anih tel lo in ziangtin kan feh ding ti in kan thin a phang, kan lung a leeng theu. Cumi minung daan a si ko. Asinan, zum lo tuk bang tuk ih kan thinphang le lungleeng in kan um lonak ding Bible in ziangtin sunralnak thu thawn in sim timi lo ruah ka duh.

1.     Pathian ih faale pawl harsatnak tong lo ding in Pathian in thu in kam lo (Mark 4: 37)

Minung tampi in Pathian ih thu kan ngai lo tik ah, harsatnak kan tong tiah kan ti theu. Jonah tla Pathian thu a ngai lo tikah, Pathian in thlitu le tilik a hran ter ih netabik ah ngapi pum sungah a thleng ter tiah kan ti. Asinan, Mark 4:35t sung ih thuanthu vek a si ahcun, Jesuh in tipi ral khat lam ah kan feh pei tiah thu a pekmi an ngai ruangah an feh. Asinan, ti suar le tilet an tong thotho.

                                                                                        

Pathian tihzah zettu Josseph thawng a tla, Job khal a neihmi a hlo theh; Paul khal harnak le hremnak tangmpi a tong. Jesuh ih dungthluntu pawl khal thah an tong theh.

2.     Jesuh in a fa le pawl hnen ih thu in kammi cu

a.     Ka lo umpi ding (Matt. 28:20).

b.     Tuar theinak le luatnak lamzin ka lo pe ding (1 Kor 10:12)

c.     Kan hrangah ziangkim a thabik in rem in ruahsaktu a si (Rom 8:29).

                                               i.     Mark 4:38 – Jesuh in feh uh ti ih a fial tikah, anmah lawng a feh ter men lo ih, an lawng sungah a um pi ringring. Hnangam tein a it that men. Jesuh thu in kammi kan zum lo tikah, kanmaih thazaang kan rinsan awk tikah, hmailam feh ding hi tihnak thawn kan khat theu. Rinnak tel lo cun tihnak thawn kan thinlung a khat ding.

d.     Kan thlacam in ngai ringring (Jer. 33:3). Jesuh an kawh ih an thang tikah an kawhnak aw a theih sak ih a tho ti khal ka thei. Cuvek in, kan buai lai caan ah Jesuh kan kawh ahcun, kan au aw Pathian in in theihsak ringring a si.

e.     Kan kiangkap thleng theitu cu Amah a si (Matt. 28:18). Jesuh in thu a pek tikah, ti suar le thlitu khal in a thu an ngai. Jesuh Khrih kan biakmi cun kan kiangkap thil cangmi hi a thleng thei a si. Amaih thusung sawn ah kan nunnak kan ciah aw sawn ding ih, a dang cu Amah in a thleng sawn ding. Na kiangkap thleng tum hlah, cucu, Jesuh ih hnatuan a si. Nang le kei ih tuanvo cu Jesuh thawn nai zet ih um le a thu vek ih nun lawng khi kan tuanvo a si.

3.     Ziangkim hi Pathian ih hnen in an ra ih, a tu ah Pathian a laksal timi ruahnak kan nei pei uh.

a.     Job 1:21 - “Lawngfangkheh in ka suak ih lawngfangkheh in ka thi ding. Bawipa in i pek ih atu-ah a lak sal. A hmin thangṭhat si ko seh,” tiah a ti.

b.     Job khal Satan in a neihnak le telefa pawl um hlah sehla Pathian ih a duhdawt lo ding ti in a ruat. Asinan, zumtu pacang tha Job cun, a tlaksiat zet lai caan khal ah a timi cu, “Ka neihmi pawl hmuahhmuah cu Pathian hnen in an ra ih, a tu ah Pathian in a lak sal, Pathian cu ka thangthat” a ti thotho.

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Rev. San No Thuan

Nov. 21, 2014

Pu Sui Luai teih inn, Frederick, Maryland ah Pho Kyaw Pa (Pu Ngun Thawng) a thih lai ih ka simmi thu a sim. 

 

How to Recover from Life’s Worst Disasters

By Rick Warren

Editor’s Note: At Pastors.com and Saddleback Church, we’ve all been in a place of mourning for our Pastor, Rick Warren, his wife Kay and their entire family after the loss of their youngest son, Matthew, who ended his own life last week after a very long battle with mental illness. You can read Pastor Rick’s words to the Saddleback family for yourself. We who are near Pastor Rick have drawn strength from his thirty-plus years of teaching biblical truth, and out of that teaching, we’ve adapted a transcript from a message delivered over a decade ago at Saddleback. Hear Pastor Rick’s words and let them speak to you in your own places of tragedy and loss…

It would be impossible, in just one message, to go into all the reasons for suffering and for why God allows tragedy. Instead I want to focus on five ways that we should respond to tragedy.

I need to release my grief.

When you go through a tragedy, which is inevitably going to happen, the first thing you need to do is release your grief.  Why?  Because tragedy always creates strong emotions.  Did you feel any emotions this week?  We don’t always know what to do with our feelings.  If you don’t deal with them, but instead stuff them deep, your recovery from a crisis always takes far longer than it should.  See some people are stuffers.  When they have emotions, they don’t know how to handle so they deny them, they ignore them, and they push them down.  In fact many people use God as an excuse for this, believing that God wants everybody to have a happy face all the time.  But real life isn’t always happy.  God doesn’t expect you to be smiling all the time.

Jesus said in Matthew 5:4, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”  In other words, it’s okay to grieve.   Face your feelings. Don’t repress them by pushing them down or rehearse them by repeating them over and over.  You release your emotions to God. If you don’t talk it out, you’ll take it out on yourself or somebody else.

I need to receive from others

The Bible says, “Carry each other’s burdens… By helping each other with your troubles, you obey the Law of Christ. (Gal. 6:2 NCV)  It is a big mistake to isolate yourself from others when you’re going through a crisis.  Our tendency is to want to be by ourselves, but you need other people in a tragedy.  You need their perspective, you need their support, you need their encouragement, and you just need their presence. To make it through a crisis, we need not only the promises of God; we need the people of God.

I need to refuse to be bitter.

One of the things I’ve learned from being in the ministry for many years, is that there’s absolutely no correlation in life between your experiences and your happiness. I’ve seen people who had absolutely the worst experiences in life – things that would shock everyone of us, and yet they maintain this happy, cheerful, positive attitude, because happiness is a choice.  You’re about as happy as you choose to be.

In the ministry I’ve seen people who had every right in the world to whine and who chose not to do so. Happiness is a choice.  You refuse to be bitter, because bitterness always hurts you.  It never changes anything.  Blaming others never changes anything.  It only makes you feel worse.

How do you keep from being bitter when the inevitable tragedies of life are going to come?

•          You accept what cannot be changed.
•         You focus on what’s left, not what’s lost.

I remember what is important.

Disasters have a way of clarifying our values and pointing out what matters and what really doesn’t matter.  Jesus said, “Life is not measured by how much one owns.” Lk 12:15 (NCV) Don’t confuse your net worth with your self worth.  Don’t confuse your possessions with your purpose in life.  Don’t confuse what you’re living on with what you’re living for.  A man’s life does not consist of what he possesses.  What matters are relationships.  You’re never going to see a hearse with a U-Haul behind it, so build your life on something that can never be taken from you.

Can you lose a home? Yes.  Can you lose a career?  Yes.  Can you lose a marriage? Yes. Can you lose your health?  Yes.  Can you lose your youthful beauty? Yes.  Can you lose your relationship with God? No.

I rely on Christ.

Christians get to approach tragedy differently than the rest of the world. We get to rely completely on Christ. We get to have hope. But how? By intentionally leaning on Christ for stability, listening to Christ for direction, and looking to Christ for salvation. He is our Rock, our Shelter, our Great Shepherd, our Hiding Place. Suffering and tragedy are inevitable in a sinful world, but Jesus Christ makes all the difference. Decide that you will rely on Him even in the darkest of hours of your life.

Dealing With Grief: Five Things NOT to Say and Five Things to Say In a Trauma Involving Children

Rev. Emily C. Heath

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We often have no idea what to say in the face of senseless loss. That is especially true when children are the victims of tragedy. Today's shooting in Connecticut is heartbreaking in so many ways, not the least of which is the staggering loss of children.

My first two years in ministry were spent as a chaplain assigned to the emergency department of a children's hospital with a level one trauma center. During that ministry I saw so many senseless tragedies. I also heard some of the worst theology of my life coming from people who thought they were bringing comfort to the parents. More often than not, they weren't. And often, they made the situation worse.

Here are five things not to say to grieving family and friends:

1. "God just needed another angel."

Portraying God as someone who arbitrarily kills kids to fill celestial openings is neither faithful to God, nor helpful to grieving parents.

2. "Thank goodness you have other children," or, "You're young. You can have more kids."

Children are not interchangeable or replaceable. The loss of a child will always be a loss, no matter how many other children a parent has or will have.

3. He/she was just on loan to you from God.

The message is that God is so capricious that God will break parents' hearts at will just because God can. It also communicates to parents and loved ones that they are not really entitled to their grief.

4. God doesn't give you more than you can handle.

Actually, some people do get a lot more than any one person should ever have to handle. And it doesn't come from God. Don't trivialize someone's grief with a "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" mentality.

5. We may not understand it, but this was God's will.

Unless you are God, don't use this line.

And here are five things to say:

1. I don't believe God wanted this or willed it.

A grieving friend or family member is likely hearing that this is God's will from a number of other people. Affirm the idea that it may very well not be.

2. It's okay to be angry, and I'm a safe person for you express that anger to if you need it.

Anger is an essential part of the grieving process, but many don't know where to talk about it because they are often silenced by others when they express their feelings. (For instance, they may be told they have no right to be angry at God.) By saying you are a safe person to share all feelings, including anger, with, you help the grieving person know where they can turn.

3. It's not okay.

It seems so obvious, but sometimes this doesn't get said. Sometimes the pieces don't fit. Sometimes nothing works out right. And sometimes there is no way to fix it. Naming it can be helpful for some because it lets them know you won't sugarcoat their grief.

4. I don't know why this happened.

When trauma happens, the shock and emotion comes first. But not long after comes our human need to try to explain "why?" The reality is that often we cannot. The grieving person will likely have heard a lot of theories about why a trauma occurred. Sometimes it's best not to add to the chorus, but to just acknowledge what you do not know.

5. I can't imagine what you are going through, but I am here to support you in whatever way feels best.

Even if you have faced a similar loss, remember that each loss is different. Saying "I know how you're feeling" is often untrue. Instead, ask how the grieving person is feeling. And then ask what you can do to help. Then, do it and respect the boundaries around what they don't want help with at this point. You will be putting some control back into the hands of the grieving person, who often feels like they have lost so much of it.

Ninghan Riahsiat Caan Ah Khuiah Pathian a um?

By San No Thuan

Dung 7:55,56
“Vancung kha a hun zoh tikah Pathian sunlawinak le Pathian vorhlamih a dingmi Jesuh kha a hun hmu. Cutikah, ‘Zohhnik uh! Van a ong aw ih Pahtian vorhlamah Milai Fapa a ding ka hmu!’ tiah a ti.”

Thuhmai hruai:
Kum no zetzet in, kan thih caan a cut hlaan ih minung pawl kan thih hi Pathian ih a duhmi a si pei maw? Natnak a phunphun tuar in kan thih hi Pathian ih a duhmi a si pei maw tihi thu ka ruat zet. Hivek in kan tuar lai ah teh Pathian hi ziang a tuah si pei?

John 10:10 sung ih kan zoh tikah, “Kei cu nunnak nan neih ih duhdim nunnak nan neih theinak ding ah ka ra” a ti. Kan nunnak ah lungawi hnangam te ih um ding, dam cak zet ih um ding in duhsaktu a si. Curuangah, Pathian in a caan kim lo pi ih kan nat le kan thih hi a duhmi a si lo ti a fiang. Kan duhdawt zetmi hi kan siang lo cing in le a caan kim lo pi in Pathian kan hnen in ziang mumal khal ruat lo in laksak a si lo. Rom 8:28 sung kan zoh tik khal ah kan par ih thil a thlengmi zate in Pathian ih duhmi an si tiah a ti lo. Kan par ah ziang bang tuk thil khal thleng khal sehla, in duhdawt biktu kan Pathian in kan thatnak ding hrangah in tuah sak sal timi hi a sim duhmi a si. 

Asile, ziang ah natnak le thihnak cu kan tong? Leilung tlun cu famkim lonak ram a si. Famkim lonak ram ih a nungmi pawl cun, riahsiatnak, zatlaknak, natnak le thihnak kan ton dingmi hrimhrim a si. Cutivek ih kan riahsiat le kan thin a har caan ah, kan mah te tuartu kan si lo ding a thupi. Asile, khui tawk ah kan biakmi Pathian a um? Amah cu zo a si?

1. Kan biakmi Pathian ih hmin cu Immanuel Pathian a si (Mtt 1:23).
Amah cu kan hnen ah a kumkhua in in umpi ringringtu Pahtian a si. “Ka lo tlansan lo ding, ka lo hnong lo ding” tiah thu in kamtu Pathian a si (Heb 13:5). Kan tuarnak in theihpi tu a si. Israel mi pawl Egypt ram ih an tuar tuk tikah, Pathian an ko. Curuangah, Pathian in ka mi Israelmi pawl ih tuarnak le aihram aw ka thei a si tiah a ti. “Ex. 3:9 The cry of the Israelites has now come to me; I have also seen how the Egyptians oppress them. Pathian in kan tuarmi a thei ringring a si.” Curuangah, “ttih hlah uh” tiah vancungmi cun, Christmas caan in simmi cu a si.

2. Kan nunnak famkim ter dingah, “Khrih bang sin dingah,” Pathian in hna a tuan rero a si (1Pet 5:10).
Pathian in harsatnak tong lo dingah zumtu pawl thu in kam lo. In buai pitu harsatnak pawl hmuahhmuah khal neh in, Khrih a bang sinsinmi kan si theinak dingah hna a tuan rero a si. Na feeling par ah na zumnak kha bun hlah aw. Pathian ih thukam par sawn ah na zumnak kha bun sawn aw. Cui Pahtian thukam cu, “Cule caan malte sung nan tuar hnuah zaangfahnak in a khatmi Khrih thawn nan pehzom awk ruangah amah thawn kumkhua sunlawinak hlawm aw dingih a lo kotu Pathian Amah rori in a lo famkimter ding ih hngetkhohnak le thazaang cahnak a lo pe ding” (1Pet 5:10). A lo famkim ter sal ding tiah thu in kam a si. Thinglamtah a um ahcun, thawhsalnak timi cu a um ringring ding a si. Tuarnak a um tikah, Pathian in cui tuarnak pawl neh in thawhsal theinak in pe ding a si.

Asinan, lei tlun cu kan zate in a laangte sunglawng a hmunmi kan si. Everything is temporary. Bawi Jesuh ih a dam termi pawl khal an thi sal thotho. A dungthluntu rori pawl khal a thi thotho. Cu ti ih kan thih tikah teh Pathian cu khui ah a um?

3. Vancung saangka ong in in hmuak (Acts 7:55, 56).
Stephen kha Bawi Jesuh cu Pathian fapa taktak asinak thu pawl a sim ciamco tikah, Judahmi pawl cu an thin a heng tuk ih thah ding in a tum. Cu tikah, Stephen cun, “Vancung kha a hun zoh tikah Pathian sunlawinak le Pathian vorhlamih a dingmi Jesuh kha a hun hmu. Cutikah, ‘Zohhnik uh! Van a ong aw ih Pahtian vorhlamah Milai Fapa a ding ka hmu!’ tiah a ti.” Zumtu pawl kan thih tikah, thihnak cu kan netnak a si lo. Vancung sangka ong in kan Bawipa in in hmuak a si ti zumtu a fehcia zo pawl in fiang te in an hmu a si.

Thunetnak
Kan riahsiat le mitthli tlak caan ah kan Pathian cu khui tawk ah a um?

1. Kan hnen ah in um pi. Kan tuarnak khal in theihpi a si.
2. In buaipi tu pawl neh in in famkim ter sal in Khrih a bangmi lungput le nunnak kan neih sinnak ding hrangah hna a tuan rero a si.
3. Lei tlun kan nunnak a cem tikah, vancung saangka ong in in hmuak a si.