What goes around comes around!

His name was Fleming, and  he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while  trying to make a living for his family, he heard  a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He  dropped his tools and ran to the  bog.
There, mired to his waist in black  muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and  struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved  the lad from what could have been a slow and  terrifying death.


 

The next  day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the  Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An elegantly  dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced  himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming  had saved.

'I want to repay  you,' said the nobleman. 'You saved my son's  life.'
'No, I can't accept  payment for what I did,' the Scottish farmer  replied waving off the offer. At that moment,  the farmer's own son came to the door of the  family hovel.

'Is that your  son?' the nobleman  asked.
'Yes,' the farmer  replied proudly.

'I'll make  you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of  education my own son will enjoy If the lad is  anything like his father, he'll no doubt grow to  be a man we both will be proud of.' And that he  did.

Farmer Fleming's son attended the  very best schools and in time, graduated from  St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London,  and went on to become known throughout the world  as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the  discoverer of  Penicillin.



Years afterward,  the same nobleman's son who was saved from the  bog was stricken with pneumonia.

What  saved his life this time?  Penicillin.

The name of the nobleman?  Lord Randolph Churchill ... His son's  name?
Sir Winston  Churchill.



Someone once said: What  goes around comes around!

Work like  you don't need the money.



Love like  you've never been hurt.



Dance like  nobody's watching.



Sing like nobody's  listening.



Live like it's Heaven on Earth.


Pass this on, and brighten some one’s day.

 

Anger Management

To control your anger:

1. Take a deep breath.
2. Don’t attack the person, but the problem.
3. Remind yourself that getting anger will not solve the problem. Focus on problem solving for the future than the problem in the past.
4. Never use “never” and “always” to negative things.
5. Don’t expect others not to come on your way while your are traveling. Don’t always think that things ought to go your way.
6. Don’t be selfish, but have a consideration for others.
7. Pay good attention to others by closing your mouth first.
8. Talk slow, talk low, but remain short.
9. Remember that the purpose of your life is to reflect Jesus. Will Jesus act like this?
10. If your child’s messy room makes you furious, then, just close that door to make yourself calm.
11. Try to find things that you can agree with more than you cannot.
12. Don’t give command to others but always request them.
13. Don’t think yourself that you know everything. Let other reveal their opinions.
14. Don’t think that all the world is against you. You just arrive at its difficult spot.
15. The underlying message of highly angry people, Dr. Deffenbacher says, is "things oughta go my way!" Angry people tend to feel that they are morally right, that any blocking or changing of their plans is an unbearable indignity and that they should NOT have to suffer this way. Maybe other people do, but not them!
16. Focus not on "who is right?" but on "what is right?" 

Ref: http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx#

http://www.sannothuan.com/2011/04/anger-management.html

Female infidelity: It's different from the guys

Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website,GoodInBed.

In a committed relationship nothing hurts more, or is harder to recover from, than infidelity, and this is even truer when it’s the female partner who’s been doing the cheating.  In recent years I’ve noticed a precipitous rise in the number of men who have been betrayed by adultery, and while there’s an overall consensus among professionals that female infidelity is on the rise, the trend doesn’t garner nearly as much attention as male infidelity  That’s surprising, because female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the death knell to a couple’s relationship.

It's often said that men cheat for sex, while women cheat for love, the theory being that men can more easily compartmentalize sex and emotion, while women typically need to experience an emotional connection to a person before feeling sexual desire. Without those pesky emotions to stand in the way of a potential mistake, a guy is much more likely to get himself into trouble (especially if alcohol is involved and inhibitions are down) or to get involved with someone for whom he has no feelings.

That’s not to say that men don't cheat  because they're unhappy, in search of an emotional connection or simply bored in their relationship (a topic we’re currently analyzing at Good in Bed), but  many of the men I've encountered who have cheated on their wives often have no desire to leave their primary relationship. Many of them even characterize themselves as happily married with satisfying sex lives.

That’s one of the reasons there's often a better chance that a couple will stay together and try to work things out when it’s the man who’s doing the cheating, rather than the woman. For men, cheating often tends to be opportunistic—they’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and the cheating doesn’t necessarily mean anything emotionally—whereas with women the desire to cheat is often less opportunistic and more deeply felt.  It’s often more a matter of the heart than of the genitals. Sure, some women cheat for the sex, but many also cheat for another chance at love, or to confirm to themselves that their primary relationship is really over. A woman who cheats is often a woman who doesn't want to work it out. She's already invested time trying to work it out, and she's done. It's too late.

While there aren't any hard statistics on female infidelity, most experts agree that it's on the rise, especially among women who have their own careers and a degree of financial independence. A University of Washington study found that people who earned $75,000 or more per year were 1.5 times more likely to have had extramarital sex than those earning less than $30,000. And with so many women in the workplace, it’s no surprise that 46 percent of women and 62 percent of men cheated on their spouses with someone they met through work.

Another big factor in the rise in female infidelity is the Internet. Sexual infidelity often starts with emotional infidelity, and digital technologies offer an abundance of opportunity for emotional (and thrilling) connections: The return of an ex, a workplace flirtation, a Facebook friendship that becomes more than "just friends."  Women are extremely susceptible to “emotional infidelity,” which starts as friendship, often with colleagues or seemingly harmless online relationships, and slowly progresses to something more. A gradual blurring of the lines between friendship and deeper intimacy draws even happily partnered people into relationships they never saw coming.

So what are some of the signs that a woman could be cheating or thinking about it?

-         She shows less general interest in her partner's comings and goings

-         She dresses up for work, but seems to care less about whether her partner finds her attractive

-         She has less interest in sex with her partner

-         She's keeping an irregular schedule and spending more time at work

-         She seems happy, except when she's around her partner

-         She shows less tolerance of her partner's friends and family

-         There are unresolved issues in the relationship that have either been ignored or not resolved in a way that's satisfying to her

-         She's in a child-centric marriage that prioritizes parenting and neglects a couple's relationship, with few opportunities for romance and alone time

Guys, think your wife would never cheat? Think again. When men get angry about something, they tend to lash out, but women often self-silence and bottle up their emotions. As Helen E. Fisher, research professor of anthropology at Rutgers University, says, "Men want to think women don't cheat, and women want men to think they don't cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other."  Maybe this isn’t so much a game as a reflection of the double standard and culture of forgiveness that favors men—“boys will be boys,” as the adage goes—when they cheat. But as we’re learning, cheating is an equal opportunity sport, one that women are just as likely as men to play.

KAN ṬHATNAK DING A HAWL

                By Henry vl Hmangaih

          Ka lo duhdawt tuk ruangah na hrangih ṭhabik ka lo duhsak. Hi ṭawngfang hin Jonah bung hnih sung ih nganmi Pathian ih in duhdawtnak thu a khaikhawm. Pathian ih duhdawtnak cu a thin a fual ih kan ṭhatnak ding bik a hawl ṭheu.

Pathian cun thinsau te’n in ngaithla (Jonah 2:1-2; 2 Peter 3:9)

Jonah cu a sebikmi dinhmun ih a um tikah thla a cam ih Pathian in a thlacamnak a ngaisak (cang. 2). Thlacam ti mi cu Pathian thawi can hman tlang ti ai a si. Khatlamah riahsiatza a si mi cu, kan lakih zumtu mi tampi cu kan mangbang, vansan can le bawm kan ṭul can lawngah Pathian hnenah thla kan cam. Asinan, Pathian ih in duhdawtnak cun kan mah vekin ṭanghma a sial ve lo. Khawruahharza a si mi cu, cutivekih kan mangbang, vansan le bawm kan ṭul can lawngih a hnenih thla kan cam tik khalah, thinsaute’n kan dilnak in ngaisak ih kan ṭulsam dan vekin a saannak khal in pe ziangahtile in duhdawt ruangah a si. “ BAWIPA cu zaangfahnak le lainatnak a nei; A thin a sau ih a hmunmi duhdawtnak in a khat…Kan tuar ding zatin in tuarter siang lo ih, kan sualnak le kan mawhnak man zat in in cawh lo” (Sam 103:8,10).

Thla kan cam tikah Pathian  ih umpinak hmun ah kan lut tinak a si. Amah thawi pehzawm aw ding cun kan thluak men lawng in si lo, kan thinlung sung muril bik ih sin thla kan cam a ṭul( Sam 18:4-6). Jonah, Pathian ih kamsang cun Bawipa’i hnenih sin tlanhlohnak sual rapthlak zet a tuah, asinan a thinlung sungih si’n thla a cam tikah Bawipa in a theihsak (v.2). Ziangtik can si thinlung zate’i Bawipa thawi nan dawrawk can netabik? Ziangvek thil  sual rapthlak na rak tuah zo a si hmanah Bawipa cu na hnenih si hlat pi ah a um cuang lo.

Pathian in kan hrangah zohṭhim ding in taan ih cu mi cu  amah kan duhdawt cun a thu kan ngai ti mi hi a si. Kan duhdawtmi pawl ih ṭawngkam, thuruah le relmi thinsau tei ngaithlaksak hi kan zir rori a ṭul. Cumi tuah ding cun, an mah kha kan thupitter ih hleiah an nunnak ih thil thlengmi pawlah kan telpit ve a ṭul. Na duhdawtmipawl teh ziang an bang, ṭhimnakah.. na faalepawl, na nu le pa, na pi le pu, na nupi/na pasal etc ? Ralring te’n anmah na bia in na setsaan maw lole thu an rel le lo ruah tikah theih hiar zet, ngai nuam ti zet le cingkeng ding in an thu na ngaithlak sak maw?

 Pathian cun thinsaute’n nun in sim (Jonah 2:3-6; Thuf. 3:11-12)

Thufim 3:11-12 cun, “ Ka fapa, Bawipa ih nunsimnak cu ziang rel loin va um hlah, a lo kawk tikah na thin na hlah. Ziangahtile pa in a duhdawt zetmi a faate nun a sim bangin, Bawipa in a duhdawt mipawl cu nun a si ” ti ah a ti. Pathian ih nunsimnak cu in duhdawt tuk ruangih kan tlun ih ra thleng mi a si ziangahtilen anih cun kan hrangih thabik ding a duh. Jonah cu tipi sungah lawng hnaṭuantupawl in an thlak, asinan Jonah cun Pathian ih nunsimnak vekin a hmu. Minung ih cangvaihnak phenih zianghmuah hmuah uktu Pathian kha a hmu. Jonah cun hitin thla a cam “Nangmah in tipi thuuk sungah I hlon.” Lawng mawngtupawl a puh lo (Cang 3-4). Zumtu afaale kan nunnakah vanduai le vansiat a um nawn lo, thil thleng mi (incidents not accidents) lawng a um. Rinnak thawi cui kan parih thil thleng mipawl kan saankirsaal  tikah Pathian in cui kan tawnmi pawlcu a tumtah famkimternak ah a hmang ding. Sawr tlakmi,miṭha siin kan si theinak dingah Pathian in kan nunah harsatnak thlenter a siang ziangtile cupawl cu kan nun in serhriam tu dingih a hmanrua an si. Minung ih hlawhsamnak, mualphonak le beidawnnak phenah, Pathian in kan hrangih thilṭhabik tumtahnak a nei a si ti hi kan zum ngam a ṭul. Cumi cu kan zum ngam lo asilen , mi dang kan puh ding ih cutin mi ṭha- sawrtlak ah suak loin a hlan ai ih siava sawn le sualral sawn ah kan cang ding.

Nunsimnak hi hremnak thawn a bang aw lo. Nunsimnak cu duhdawtnak ih si a ra um mi a si ih mi pakhat khat ih ṭhatnak ding a tumtah, asinan hremnak cu huatnak ih si a ra suak mi a si tikah mi pakhat khat harsa zetih tuah, hrem cu a tumtah a si ih runsuah kirsal tumtahnak a tel lo. Nu le pa hrekkhat cun an faale an hrem ih , duhdawtnak thawn nun an sim lo. Ziangkim kan tuah mi ah, duhdawtnak in in mawng seh la, mi dangih an ṭhatnak ding bik duhsaknak thawn kan tuah ding a si.

Kan harsatnak a zual siinsiin le, lungtum pi kan khit zit ngaingai ih kan ruahawk caan ah Jonah ih thuanthu hi cing ringring uh si. Pathian in tipi sungih Jonah mangbang ter ding a siang, asinan Jonah in a nun a thleng ih a sirawk leveten Pathian in cui a harsatnak ih sin a runsuak sal (cang 5-6).

Pathian cun thinsau te’n in hruaikirsal (Jonah 2:7-10;3:1-2)

Jonah cun hitin thla a cam, “ Santlai lo milem a betupawl cun Pathian zaangfahnak an tlansan.” (cang 8). A harsatnak a hmusuak- Ma’i thuduhnak le milem betupawl vekih mah le mah biakawknak . Pathian ih duhnak thlun lo in amai duhnak sawn a thlun. Sualnak hmuahhmuah zikte ih sualhram cu milem biaknak hi a si. Milem biak ti mi cu ziangthil pohpoh a sikhallen kan nunnakih thupibik -Pathian ih hmun a luahtu pawl hi an si. Milem biaknak pakhat khat kan kaih tikah Pathian ih zaangfahnak le kan hrangih in duhsak mi thil ṭhabik kan tlansan (cang 8). Milem biaknak kan ti mi hi a sual zawng in an lan aw thluh cuang lo.  Sumpai thlawsuah kan dawn mi siseh, kan hnaṭuannak siseh, innsang ih kan pehzawmawknak pawl siseh a sualnak a um lo, asinan cupawl cu kan nunnakah Pathian hnakih thupi sawn ih kan ret tikah le kan humhimawknak (security) vekih kan ruah tikah , kan hrangah kan milem biaknak ah an cang ṭheu.

Milem biaknak cun kan ruahnak a siatsuah. Kan nuncan le ziaza um dan pawlah puhpawh le phuaphlam ding a phunphun a rawn thlen. “ Pathian cu an thei ko; sikhalsehla upat hmaizah tlak a  sinain upat hmaisahnak an pe lo; a parah lungawi thu khal an sim lo. An ruahnak sawn kha thulolak ah a cang theh ih an thinlung kawlawngpi cu thimnak in a khat. Kan fim an ti aw nain an aa a si.” (Rom 1:21-22).

Tui ni ah nangteh na nunah milem biaknak –Pathian hnakih thupi sawn ih na ruah mi, nan nunnak Pathian thuawihnak ih sin lo hruai peng tu, a duhdawtnak le zaangfahnak tep thei lo ih lo dawn khamtu, na hrangih a duhnak ṭhabik hmu thei lo ding ih na ruahnak lo siatsuahtu tu a um pang maw?  Cupawl cu ziang pawl an si ti na kai fiang thei maw? Ziangtin cupawl cu na nunnak ih sin na tuah /hlawn ding?  Kan nunnakih milem biaknak ummipawl theifiang thei dingih hnaṭuan dingah Bawipa siannak kan pek leveten, thleng danglamawknak kan nunnakah a thawk ṭheu.

Hi mi daan hi cing ringring aw:

Harsatnak+Caan+Duhdawtnak+Rinnak = Ṭhanlennak, pitlinnak, thlawsuahnak

(James 1:2-4).

Harsatnak: Harsatnak pawl hi  Pathian in kan ruahnak a hnenih a laknak hmanrua an si.

Caan: Thinsaute’n um aw, kan lakih mi tampi cun harsatnak cinfel lohli le a rang theipa tawpih a saanak ngah kan duh, asinan Pathian cun kan nun ih thlengdanglamawknak a um ding mi kha a thupitter sawn curuangah cumi thleng ding cun caan ziang maw ti a rei a ṭul.

Duhdawtnak: Pathian in in duhdawt ruangah harsatnak kan parih a thlen a siang. Cuvekin, kan nih khalin duhdawtnak thawn kan sawnkir sal ve ding a si.

Rinnak: Ziangvek harsatnak le buainak kan parih a rawng thlen tik khalah Bawipa ah lungawi, aipuang ih um zir uh si. A thutiam siseh, a ziaza siseh amah rori kha rinsan aw. Rinnak cu kan nun le Pathian ih huham  pehzawmawknak lilawn a si.

Pathian cu a dang can ṭha mi pesal tu a si

          Jonah in a sual a sir tikah, Pathian in ngapi hnenah Jonah kha tiva kapih luaksuak dingah a fial. Cumi hnuah Bawipa in a thupek  a nawlhsal, “ Bawipa ih ṭawng cu Jonah hnenah a ra thleng sal ih, “ Tho awla a nasa zetmi khawlipi Nineveh ah feh aw; ka lo sim ciami vekin ka thu va phuang aw,” ti ah a ti (Jonah 3:1-2) Tui ni ah zumtu mitampi cu ruahsannak nei nawn lo ih a um tla kan um a si men thei. Asinan, Jonah cabu in khawitawk hmunah kan rak um dah siseh, ziangtluk sual khuurthukpi ah pilin, sualnak rapthlak kan rak tuah zo, rero asihmanah, kan nun kan sir aw, kan thinlung kan thleng aw a siah cun Pathian in in runsuak in in hruaikir sal ding a si timi in sim. Jonah ih hrangah a vawihnihnak canṭha dang a sersak vekin na hrang le ka hrang khalah Bawipa in a tuah ve ding.  A si, Bawipa in a lo duhdawt taktak , a thu na ngai le na thlun tikah na hrangih ṭhabik ding a lo hawlsak. A ṭhabik cu a ra lai ding mi a si!”

What goes around comes around!

His name was Fleming, and  he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while  trying to make a living for his family, he heard  a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He  dropped his tools and ran to the  bog.
There, mired to his waist in black  muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and  struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved  the lad from what could have been a slow and  terrifying death.


 

The next  day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the  Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An elegantly  dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced  himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming  had saved.

'I want to repay  you,' said the nobleman. 'You saved my son's  life.'
'No, I can't accept  payment for what I did,' the Scottish farmer  replied waving off the offer. At that moment,  the farmer's own son came to the door of the  family hovel.

'Is that your  son?' the nobleman  asked.
'Yes,' the farmer  replied proudly.

'I'll make  you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of  education my own son will enjoy If the lad is  anything like his father, he'll no doubt grow to  be a man we both will be proud of.' And that he  did.

Farmer Fleming's son attended the  very best schools and in time, graduated from  St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London,  and went on to become known throughout the world  as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the  discoverer of  Penicillin.



Years afterward,  the same nobleman's son who was saved from the  bog was stricken with pneumonia.

What  saved his life this time?  Penicillin.

The name of the nobleman?  Lord Randolph Churchill ... His son's  name?
Sir Winston  Churchill.



Someone once said: What  goes around comes around!

Work like  you don't need the money.



Love like  you've never been hurt.



Dance like  nobody's watching.



Sing like nobody's  listening.



Live like it's Heaven on Earth.


Pass this on, and brighten some one’s day.

 

Ziangmi na ruat?

Thu na ruahmi in, thil a lo tuah ter ding

Thil na tuahmi in, tuah duh sinsinnak a lo neih ter ding (habbit)

Na tuah sinsinmi in, na ziaza a lo thlengh ter ding (character)

If you sow a thought, you will reap an action;

If you sow an action, you will reap a habit;

If you sow a habit, you will reap a character.

Kan ruahmi hi tha te in kan cekfel ringring a tul. Ziang ka ruat ti a mah le mah a cekfel aw lo tu cu, a ram sungah, misual pawl an lut maw lut lo timi a cekfel dah lo tu ram uktu thawn a bang aw.

Na thinlung ruahnak kha Bible, thlacamnak, Pathian thu nganmi thatha thawn cawm aw. Cu lawngah Bible ih thinlung ruahnak na nei ding. Na thuruahmi hi na ziaza sersiamtu bik le na hmailam sersiamtu bik a si ruangah, hiti in sut aw aw.

Ka thuruahmi hi:

1. A thiang maw?

2. Midang ih thin a nuamh ter maw?

3. Cawn tlak a si maw?

4. Duhdawtnak thawn a khatmi a si maw?

5. A dik maw?

A tanglam bang in thu ruat thlang uh si:

Phil. 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.